refo schreef:
Het grappige is dat als er sprake is van een eigen onderneming er opeens veel coulanter tegen een werkende vrouw (inde zaak van haar man dus) wordt aangekeken. In loondienst ben je al gauw een verwaarlozer van het gezin die het alleen om het materiele gaat. In het eigen bedrijf is het juist verstandig.
Dat kan wel zijn, maar wat is de Bijbelse positie?.
Sorry voor het engels, maar dit is mijn, en meen ik, de Bijbelse positie:
(kun je hier vinden:
http://www.rfpa.org/sb/TheStandardBeare ... chresult=1)
Keepers at Home
Having followed the articles by Rev. Bruinsma in the rubric “When Thou Sittest in Thine House,” I was concerned with some things said in the last article on this in the February 1, 2005 issue.
God, right after the fall, judged the man to earn his and his family’s bread in the sweat of his face. To the woman God said that in sorrow she shall bring forth children (Gen 3:16-19). It is this present world’s folly, especially of the women, that in addition to their own sorrow they want to take upon themselves the curse placed on man. God commanded the man, not the woman, to work to sustain his family.
While this is not censurable sin, and in that sense it is a matter of Christian liberty, yet God’s commandments do have a bearing on this issue. The effect of ignoring it can and does lead to discipline issues, because of the effect and results of not being a keeper at home—on marriage and on the family in the generations.
I believe that Scripture plainly teaches that the woman must be a keeper at home, not merely a keeper of the home. It is so often the worldly woman’s discontent with the position in which God has placed her that causes her to seek work outside the home. Thus she scorns the authority of her husband (sin against the 5th commandment), and desires what the world has to offer (sin against the 8th commandment), in her coveting that which is not hers (the 10th commandment). This is one of the great curses of today’s society. It is gradually taking away any remnants of a Christian family life. And it is very hard for anyone, man or woman, to hold down two jobs and do justice to both.
Let us not be deceived into thinking that we, as Protestant Reformed believers, are immune to the spirit of the age we live in.
Is there no room for a Christian wife and mother to work outside the home? Yes, a wife may help her husband in his earthly occupation, just as many farmers’ wives do. But she in those cases is not seeking her own vocation, but is helping her husband in his.
What is phariseeism? As Christ says in Matthew 23:15, “Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites.” In this, as well as many other places in Scripture, the Word plainly teaches that phariseeism is living the life of the hypocrite. If we live an outwardly godly life, but do not have the new life living inside us, or take a holier than thou attitude, then it would be phariseeism. Christian liberty, however, is the liberty that we are set free from the slavery in the house of bondage of sin—free to start to live, not only according to some, but according to all the commandments of God. We have to be obedient to what God’s Word and our own conscience dictates for our family. The accusation of phariseeism will often come in the false charge, “They want to take away our Christian liberty.” Let us not call God’s people hypocrites.
It is the husband’s godly calling to earn a living for his family. God does not, however, require husbands to work so many hours at their calling to the detriment of their responsibilities not only to church, but also to home and family. God has provided His church with a diaconate. Both the father of the family earning his daily bread, and the aid of the deacons, are equally good gifts of God through which God provides for us.
Let us live in Christian love with each other, not resorting to name-calling, but each esteeming the other better than ourselves. Let us build up each other in the faith.
Bert Mulder
Sherwood Park, Alberta, Canada
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Het antwoord kunje op die link vinden.
Mijn enige troost is, dat ik niet mijn, maar Jezus Christus eigen ben, Die voor mijn zonden betaald heeft, en zo bewaart, dat alles tot mijn zaligheid dienen moet; waarom Hij mij ook door Zijn Heilige Geest van eeuwig leven verzekert, en Hem voortaan te leven van harte willig en bereid maakt.